I would never hide something as important as this from someone I was interested in romantically. I am extremely open for the sake of awareness anyway, and I take that very seriously. It would be 100% hypocritical to make it public for awareness efforts, and then hide it from someone I was considering an intimate and serious involvement with.. as well as inconsiderate. That's just my view on it. I think the others are right about him likely being very supportive as a cancer survivor. (I haven't read all the posts, so you may have already updated from talking to him. I'm skimming topics.)
Thanks all... He's taking me out today to celebrate my 15 year on my job so we will more than likely have that conversation tonight.. He's a very easy person to talk to so I don't expect any negativity.. But we shall see and I'll keep you all posted... Thank you for all your advice and support.. This site is the best!!!
Ok soooo, you didn’t tell us how it went dear. I told my boyfriend pretty early in our dating relationship. I didn’t want him to feel I wasted either one of our time and wanted to know how he felt before I continued to pursue a relationship. He was cool with it. He really had no clue what Lupus is though. I have explained to him and directed him to different websites so he would have knowledge of what to expect in my situation. We are both believers of God and he tells me just think positive. I do but I am also realistic. I tell him that everyday is new and I am unsure what I will deal with. He did have a hard time being there for me in the beginning but has really come a long way and is supportive of my situation. Trust your heart and him. I am sure he will have empathy if anything and it might help you have a stronger relationship because you both are actual survivors of majors health issues.
I sure hope it went well and if it didn’t, I wouldn’t be dicouraged myself in the situation. I would see it as a blessing because at least you knew before it became too serious and feelings or hearts were broken. I guess what I mean is that God has a better plan for you if that’s the case. Good luck and stay blessed.
PS: hope that sounded ok. It’s late and I’m tired. I really do mean you the best dear.