I got to take a real shower today too! I am back in a fixed ankle boot and trying to get movement back in my foot and working to stretch or I could end up walking on my tip toes. I really don’t want to look at my foot right now. I wasn’t expecting so many incisions. I’m glad that part is over
Wow,
Seriously I am amazed you aren't completely curled in a ball in the corner. That is just crazy that they think you can do all that they expect with that.
Hi Trisha,
I'm so pleased a your progress mate and back in your ankle boots...take it slowly at your own pace to walk right and correctyour foot...Trisha incisions is nothing to wanting your foot corrected it.
Best of luck with the walking and exercises :) xxx
Trisha said:
I got to take a real shower today too! I am back in a fixed ankle boot and trying to get movement back in my foot and working to stretch or I could end up walking on my tip toes. I really don't want to look at my foot right now. I wasn't expecting so many incisions. I'm glad that part is over
Hi Lynn,
I'm sorry that your family is treating you this way, and it sounds like they are so used to having their way and you backing down because you are too nice. I'm sorry that none of them have called to check on you, that is just hard for me to hear. Please know that we care about you, and you'll always find someone you can talk to! When I first read your discussion - I could remember my mother bustling about at the holidays, getting all stressed out.... and I long for those days now.
Take care of yourself, and vent here anytime and know that we love you and we understand : ) Trisha
Nicely said Trisha,
We're all here for you Lynn no matter what 
....a large group hug 
to you lynn. xxx
Trisha said:
Hi Lynn,
I'm sorry that your family is treating you this way, and it sounds like they are so used to having their way and you backing down because you are too nice. I'm sorry that none of them have called to check on you, that is just hard for me to hear. Please know that we care about you, and you'll always find someone you can talk to! When I first read your discussion - I could remember my mother bustling about at the holidays, getting all stressed out.... and I long for those days now.
Take care of yourself, and vent here anytime and know that we love you and we understand : ) Trisha
Actually, I rarely back down! They are used to getting their way but that's just because they take it. I'm still curious what will finally get them to call. I figure that even if I was very unreasonable (and I wasn't) that simple human kindness would have you checking up on someone at this stage but, as I think I mentioned, somewhere else I am unusual in this in my family. Another Christmas discussion with my mom (which probably pissed her off more): I asked if she was willing to buy some clothes with me for a new relative being raised by his grandparents. Because my mom thinks the teen mom is being negligent and lazy (she is but that doesn't change the fact that the grandma and grandma are NOT and their money is tight), she basically said "I'll have to think about it but probably not". I laid into her for kindness not being conditional but that IS how she thinks of it. Very sad (and I'm so glad that I am not like that).
I never understood family riffs but I do now...
Thanks for the group hug. This after surgery time is a bit more difficult too because I am intentionally not calling on my friends - most have kids who are home and are busy doing family things. Mom did call today and said she'd be in the area and did I need anything. I said, "No. I'm fine" and she hung up!!! Let's all go pout some more.
It really is the last straw in a run of bad behavior from both my sister and mom. I try to deal with each thing as it comes but they stubbornly stick to whatever they believe no matter what I say. All I can do is present facts etc. but they think that pushiness will win - that's why what my sister said on the phone to me in the hospital was so appropriate for her, "You mean, I'm not going to get my way?" as though that was what it was about!
Anyway, soon-to-be-ex rarely gets fired up (last time was 7 years ago, I think) but this all pissed him off too so he's being extra helpful which is great because he is only 1/2 a mile away!