Actually, none of my doctors have staff like that. However, when he said that he was speaking of other doctors. I feel very comfortable asking all of my doctors questions like that and if they don't wish to give me an answer it is time to move on. If the staff was like that I would have ZERO problem with making certain that the doctors knew the situation.
Part of having a QUALITY life is also remembering that our disease is not an excuse for US to be rude. When you can call attention to the situation to either the office manager or the doctor with facts rather than emotion, you are going to see results. When you come across as demanding or angry, this is when you find you hit a wall.
You are still coming across as angry so I can tell that you had a bad experience. This unfortunately is not going to get you the results you desire and it makes you stressed which can put you into a flare.
I had a stroke at the age of 44 so I understand that you are afraid, angry, discouraged, upset...all of the emotions that come with having a chronic disease. We all feel those emotions to varying degrees on a daily basis.
For your health this is not good. I would write out exactly what transpired in your journal (which helps me track my health, wellness, state of mind, memory, etc.) then let it go. Ignore that staffperson the next visit and discuss it with your doc when you see them. This is taking up entirely too much space in your mind. I have an ex-husband like that. But, again for your own well-being, this person should not take up anymore of your very valuable emotional well being.
I do apologize in advance if this is not what you wanted to hear, but other people cannot be allowed to have that much control over your emotions. Your peace and happiness depend more on you than outside influences. I wish you peace and rest.
Well Thanks...but its not stressing me out Im jus simply expressing how I feel... & Im not feeling rude people...I jus dont like them....I have dealt with others being rude and have never really said anything but frankly thats old....so guess what Im not taking it anymore....so to me its whatever....! ! ! Im going to give out what they (rude people) dish out...if they are rude to me then I will be rude to them...Im not going to accept it ANYMORE****So if Im too outspoken I do apologize in advance!! Nevertheless, people will not be allowed to say or do rude nasty things to me....I treat everybody with respect & I expect likewise....:*)
I hope everything works out for you Eye Candy. I'm so sorry that you have suffered so many disappointments that you feel the way you do. I, personally, choose to continue believing that everyone is entitled to a few bad days because they are human. Take care and hope you find a doctor and office that you're comfortable with.
Been there. I followed my father's advisement: "My money, I give it to the person that treats me well".
At work: I gave the girl a piece of my mind in the form of a constructive comment to her insult, heard by many. Talked to her supervisor and she was not fired. Her attitude changed and she was promoted as the Director's assistant. She never forgot how much she appreciated the counsel at the right time, and how I saved her job and career.
Dr's office. I told the dr. I was not returning to his office because of his attitude. Glad I did. I applied my father's rule. Rude staff--same rule. Since I did not have any problem with the dr. I returned to see him a couple of years later. Receptionist was not working there any more.
With my pain, I still control my emotions. They are well, and they cannot control theirs? Got my hands full trying to live, and seeking quality of living while at it. No time for nonsense!
I think we have a variety of different ways to react to someone that may be rude. Sometimes and "eye for an eye & a tooth for a tooth" leaves a bunch of toothless blind people.
That said, I would hope that the days when I am having a bad day someone will calmly let me know that I am acting inappropriately and will hopefully not hold it against me the next time I see them. I would think it would be a very lonely life to give people only one chance and never to forgive and forget.
That's just my opinion but I hope that a calm response rather than a harsh demeaning reaction would be the choice for most.
ha, most doctors i have had i agree with you, but i recently tried to speak to a new doctor about horrible experience....they basically broke my privacy rights by federal law...new doc just said sure they did not mean what ever you think and changed subject...when i tried to go back he said look i dont have time for it they were doing their job.
I just saw that this idiot is not even a real doctor...and what makes me so angry is i said i came to the doctor he is replacing since i need a doctor with hospital privileges so if i am in hospital up here i have doctor....he is DO so he cannot have hospital privileges here. He never said a word. He acted like he was MD when in truth he did not even go to school as long as my RN sister!
But i agree...tell the doctor or office manager...and i am going to do that or make state complaint if about RN or Doctor. I tried to be nice and go through him first so i would not have to make state complaint, since she broke the HIPPA law. i also have spoken to pharmacist or just ask for supervisor at pharmacies if you get a bad employee.
BUT i also make sure to tell them about the ones who go the extra mile for me as well! I like how they look when they think i am going to complain and instead give a compliment...always enjoyable to me the look on their face!
whathappensinvegas said:
Although it is frustrating, you should maintain your calm and tell the Dr. exactly what happened. My father is a Doctor and I know that he has fired undisciplined staff. Dr.s take that seriously, especially if they may be violating HIPPA laws. We also need to remember that not everyone in a Drs office is the enemy. Sometimes I find when I am having a bad day I find myself taking it out on people. Again, If you can be the bigger person, you will probably have a much better visit, unfortunately the front staff form unfair impressions of people.