I had a smear and the results have come up abnormal :( :( this is my worst nightmare I'm going in for a colposcopy and biopsies... I really hope it's not cancer I can't deal with much more of this... I just want everything to stabilise and stop popping up and ruining my life... I'm scared because I'm happy with who I'm with now I think I've found the guy I'm going to be with for the rest of my life and I feel like now I've got it I'm going to lose my life because I don't deserve it from a past life or something... I feel like I'm being punished... I've done nothing wrong in this life
Cayleigh,
You can't think like that. If this guy is supportive, then anything that comes up can be handled by the both of you. You are NOT being punished, it just is what it is in this life. Many of us women have abnormal smears, which turn out to be nothing serious. Many of us suffer from endometriosis which can cause abnormal readings, but not necessarily serious.
Keep your chin up and focus on the good things in your life.
DeAnne
breeeeathe!
I've had abnormal smears.
It wasn't cancer.
I've had abnormal and excessive unstopping bleeding.
it wasn't cancer.
Other people get cancer. they get better.
It's far more likely that things will be OK, either now or in the near future, than it is that the worst possible outcome will arise.
In the unlikely event that it's cancer, you will deal with it then, with support.
But please, try to live in the moment- with what is true right now.
You have someone who loves you, and you love back.
At this moment, you are OK.
Sounds like your imagination and worries are getting the better of you.
Since there's nothing you can do right this minute about whatever this abnormality is, Can you distract yourself with a movie, or a nice walk outdoors, or a comic book or something?
and I don't care what anyone says, we don't get sick because we deserve it. Sh*t happens. that's why there's a book called "when bad things happen to good people."
If the current epidemic of autoimmune diseases and cancer in the US is attributable to anything, in my opinion, it's the polluted air, water, land and processed food (and vaccines, chemicals, antibiotics etc) our modern world assaults our bodies with in "modern" countries. Not so much bad karma or spiritual punishment aimed at us specifically. Just the body not being able to cope with the daily onslaught of unnatural crap.
Hi!, my Prayers go out to you!..Beverly L.
whathappensinvegas said:
Cayleigh,
You can't think like that. If this guy is supportive, then anything that comes up can be handled by the both of you. You are NOT being punished, it just is what it is in this life. Many of us women have abnormal smears, which turn out to be nothing serious. Many of us suffer from endometriosis which can cause abnormal readings, but not necessarily serious.
Keep your chin up and focus on the good things in your life.
DeAnne
I have had an abnormal pap before as well, and it wasn't cancer. It was cancerous cells - which the doctor froze, and treated right then. I'm still here, that was almost 8 years ago.
Our Higher Power, which I call God, does not punish us. Just before I read this discussion, I was reading Oprah's October magazine. On the last page What I know for sure, she writes, "That's why my number one spiritual practice is trying to live in the present moment...to resist projecting into the future, or lamenting past mistakes...to feel the real power of now. That,my friends, is the secret to an inspired life."
Carla says "breeeeathe!" Beverly L says "Hay!hay! Relaxe? " This is good advice, close your eyes and quiet yourself for even a few minutes. Live in the now, this is the only thing you can control. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow hasn't happened yet. We love you.
Trisha
Cayliegh,
Idk how old you are, but I'm assuming somewhat young, or around my age, so I completely get it. I had an abnormal smear about 4yrs back, that had cancerous cells, but they were benine. So the doc went up there with her scrappy tool, scrapped it out, and I was/am Good to go. It wasn't fun or comfortable, but ok. I also am with you on the finally finding someone important in your life and you just can't get better! My insecurities come out, and I need him to reassure me that he isn't planning on leaving me bc of all this medical stuff. He has, and does. As I tell him when I need to hear him tell me positive things about our relationship, this is bc of my insecurities, not from anything you did. So far, so good.... we're not married yet, but I think if we both keep working together and being honest about our feelings about Lupus, and any other medical issue, we will be great and finish our life plan. Well, at least I'm hopeful. :) Good luck to you, and hope this helps to let you know you're not alone. The people on this site are fantastic too! :)
I've had this issue most of my life, and was told it was an hormonal imbalance. Abnormal paps aren't all that uncommon, and most turn out to be nothing. Wishing you the best and keeping you in prayer.
I’ve now just started bleeding heavy bright red blood… Shall I go to a&e?? I’m in pain too it’s quite sharp…
Yes!yes! Tomorrow has not come yet!! And Jehovah(God don’t punish no one), he allow things to happen for reasons of Adam and Eve sinned! He know what we can handle!! Faith is what make him Happy with us…Beverly L.
Trisha said:
I have had an abnormal pap before as well, and it wasn’t cancer. It was cancerous cells - which the doctor froze, and treated right then. I’m still here, that was almost 8 years ago.
Our Higher Power, which I call God, does not punish us. Just before I read this discussion, I was reading Oprah’s October magazine. On the last page What I know for sure, she writes, “That’s why my number one spiritual practice is trying to live in the present moment…to resist projecting into the future, or lamenting past mistakes…to feel the real power of now. That,my friends, is the secret to an inspired life.”
Carla says “breeeeathe!” Beverly L says "Hay!hay! Relaxe? " This is good advice, close your eyes and quiet yourself for even a few minutes. Live in the now, this is the only thing you can control. Yesterday is gone, tomorrow hasn’t happened yet. We love you.
Trisha
Exactly, unforeseen occurrences befall us all. Ecc 9:11. Sadly, due to the imperfection of man kind we are suffering from this disabling disease. Fortunately, he, Jehovah God, also promised never to allow more than what we can endure. Such as the pain threshold. Our bodies are designed to pass out if we are in too much pain. This is just one thing our designer did to keep us safe.
It’s hard not o get angry or to think we deserve what we are going through. Think of this, how many people are ever truly deserving of death? Of pain? Of the things we try telling ourselves on bad days that we are guilty for? A God of love, the true God, does not want pain, suffering, or sadness. It’s why he is forgiving and promises to do away with these things. Rev 21:3-5
Yes!Yes!you are totally right! He promise that there Will Be NOMORE pain or suffering ! Am waiting for this day to come!..Beverly L.
Mindy Wolff said:
Exactly, unforeseen occurrences befall us all. Ecc 9:11. Sadly, due to the imperfection of man kind we are suffering from this disabling disease. Fortunately, he, Jehovah God, also promised never to allow more than what we can endure. Such as the pain threshold. Our bodies are designed to pass out if we are in too much pain. This is just one thing our designer did to keep us safe.
It’s hard not o get angry or to think we deserve what we are going through. Think of this, how many people are ever truly deserving of death? Of pain? Of the things we try telling ourselves on bad days that we are guilty for? A God of love, the true God, does not want pain, suffering, or sadness. It’s why he is forgiving and promises to do away with these things. Rev 21:3-5