I totally understand. I am basically an introvert. However, I have a profession (healthcare) where I have to be an extrovert for 9 to 10 hours a day. I have no lunch break. (Evidently there is some way that the healthcare field gets around that lunch break thing.)
So I am exhausted being a “forced” extrovert, exhausted from hearing everyone’s problems and exhausted from fighting the pain I live with daily. I never will forget last year after I was hospitalized with multi organ serositis (pericarditis, pleurisy, effusions etc) for ten days. I was back at work a week and a half later with severe chest/back/breathing pain and crazy fatigue. (Hey we do what we have to do to pay the bills.) Anyway I have to listen to a patient who has a “bad back” and that “you just don’t know what it is like to be in constant pain”. One of my co workers gave me a look and I just gave him a “quiet sign”. I try not to complain because no one really understands but you guys.
Sorry, I went off on a little rant myself. But after work I just want to be alone as well. My family knows they need to give me plenty advance time if they are coming into town. Not sure how it got to be that way. I think it is because of my older (angel) of a sister. They often stay at a hotel too. So I am blessed at least some family members understand.
Thanks for posting this. I thought I was the only one who felt that way.
Wow Ann,I too have some insensitive family members myself,I am the only girl in my family,I’m the only granddaughter,I have the only great granddaughters and the only great great granddaughters,I come from a family of all brothers…if I can’t do anything for them they do not come around,both of my younger brothers age 45 and 47 kept coming over and asking for money,a place to sleep a ride somewhere,“sister would you buy me cigs”,sister would you pay for my meds,sister can you,the list goes on and on…last month I text them both and told them I would no longer put up with them playing musical beds and I would no longer be loaning them money or give them rides,they both have suspended licenses,no cars,and no home of there own…I have not heard from them…UNTILL tonight when I was looking at giving our old 65 inch big screen tv away,now they both wish they could have it if they just had a place to put it…What A Joke!!! My husband and I have worked so very hard to attain the things we have,and my brothers just want to take,take,take,…they have watched me endure surgery after surgery…Do they offer to help me?? Never…I believe god gave us friends because we can’t choose our family…
Hi!, sometimos it Is family that we have to let and let God/your higher power do the Job for you of desaliñe with they ! And as much as we don’t want to totally tell /talk bad to they (but we are Sick , not Stupid)!! And that Is what THEY missunderstand . So relax and let God take care of family and give they smiles …Beverly L.
Ann,
I'm SO proud of you for standing up to your sister in law! You do not need this toxic person in your life...to come to your home and make you feel like you have to be at her beck and call!
YAY for not giving her a birthday party when you didn't feel up to it....I'm being blunt, but your health is most important!
Lori
YAY Ann!!! I am SO proud of you!!!!!!
Much love and hugs,
Lori