I'm finding it very difficult to keep up with my life, which includes; school, my daughter, a custody case and I constant fight to be able to receive SSI, since I am not eligible for SSD. It's impossible for me to work at this time, and I can barely afford enough to care for my daughter and a few of the million doctor appointments. Forget about physical therapy(which helped) because I cant pay $60 a week just to do exercises in a pool.
When you wake up in the morning, how do you get out of bed? With every drop of determination you have in you... but when you're losing hope, how do you continue to push on?
Take and put a picture of your daughter beside your bed , so when you wake up and see her picture it will remind you why you need to push through the day. It is hard most mornings to get up and going but I know you can do it for her and yourself. Don't forget you are not alone !! We are all here for one another !!! I will pray for you !! Love and Hugs, Sandy
Thank you Sandy! That is a really good idea! I hate to be pushy, but I read you’ve been through a disability case and won, I’m just wondering if you could give me a few tips as to what I should say in court to help lead them towards giving me the help i need from them, since being sick all the time doesn’t seem to be enough!!
I see my dog's wagging tail and know just how much she loves me and looks forward to me being there. Sometimes I put on a favorite CD or radio station as a little "pick me up". As a kid my alarm clock had the option of putting the radio on as the "alarm" and I loved waking up to the music and getting my day started like that.
Lately I have been feeling the same way as you. The best advice I have heard so far is just to take one day at a time. When I think about continuing the ongoing struggle for years and years it seems like I can't bear it.
Recently I have been watching videos online of inspiring people whos lives are filled with so much adversity and struggle, and yet they are happy and trudging on. I am finding them to be very inspirational - especially the children.
And of course your daughter needs you to keep going.
I like the idea of having a picture of your daughter beside your bed to give you some incentive to get up. I have a 55 lb baby who wants to be fed every morning. And once I get up to feed her, she wants to go for a walk. I find that if I get up and go for a walk, even a short one, it gets me moving enough so I can shake off that “I can’t move and don’t want to move” feeling I have every morning. And of course, once I get moving, I see the mess that my husband has left in the kitchen and know that if I don’t clean it up, it will only get worse. That’s a whole 'nother story- he is an alcoholic who is unemployed (most likely because of his drinking) and who spends his days doing four things- eating, sleeping, drinking and watching TV. I am just waiting on my disability hearing to possibly “escape.” The stress of dealing with him and all his crap just makes all this stuff worse. And I started smoking again a month and a half ago. I made a commitment yesterday to stop and so far I am doing okay. My hands are getting tired. I hope everyone has an awesome day!
You have your hands full, and that's enough for anyone to deal with. The slogan "One day at a Time" has gotten me through many a tough day. Thinking about it all, can get so overwhelming and my mind will take me places I don't need to go to. I'll wake up in the middle of the night dwelling on it, if I let it get to me. I've been through the custody battles, and you are in my prayers. You might want to check your local YMCA, they have scholarships based on income for memberships that be nice for you and your daughter.
Hi, this a GOOD TOPIC!!! How? with the grace of JEHOVAH!!! that is the only thing that helps me through the day. somedays i want to just give up, and exit this life , but then there comes this VOICE that says," all the things you been through , you want to give up now?" So , here i am another day , filled with some PAIN or another -smile Like i say , Keep it Moving!, Don't stress, Relax, and oh yeah shut down moments doing NOTHING!!!!take care and don't forget to PRAY.....Beverly L.
the most difficult thing i do every day is to get out of bed. the longer I stay in it awake the more difficult it becomes. Until recently I had dogs who had had to be let out every morning. Now, I use an old woman with hypertension trick. I take my diuretic just before going to bed. In the morning my options are get up or wet myself. You probably do not have a diuretic, however, you can make sure that you wake up with a full bladder.
As Trisha pointed out, the Y tries to serve people at different income levels. I have been paying to use the pool at the physical rehab hospital near my house. But they have a mission statement which says that they exist to help people independent of their ability to pay. Check around to find if there is such a service oriented organization in your area.
And remember that if you need something you must ask for it. And when people say no you must assume that they misunderstood your question, rephrase it and ask again.
For example, the young woman who works at the front desk does not always know about policies. It is often necessary to speak to a "boss."
I was dx with lupus when my son was an infant. I had a daughter 6.5 years later. Getting out of bed in the morning has always been tough. I have often felt overwhelmed - like today. But my son is now 46 years old and my daughter 40. they are both college graduates with spouses and children of their own. Sometimes we just have to hang on.