I am grateful too about making it through another year in respectfully decent physically okay. wish i was better but options could be so much worse.
I worried a lot about all the same things you have mentioned. I can say one i could control, my finances i am glad that i did plan early on for a time when i could not work. That is what i say, plan, speak to financial advisor about what options you have such as 401, put in at least as much as your employer matches, more if you can afford it. We did not buy as nice a home as our friends and family but instead one within our a budget we could live off either one of our salaries as my husband was okay health wise but had a job he could get hurt on any day he worked.
So now that the day has come when i went on SSDI since i could not work even part time anymore, i am doing okay financially. I cannot travel or even buy a car without budgeting for it but i am okay.
Also...even healthy women have no guarantees about finding Mr Right or as i say Mr Big!! As long as you get yourself out where you can meet people you have those chances happening daily! If not, you might consider online dating service.
I have friends who made excellent friends and even some married by doing the online dating. Even just joining online groups ..well i have made many friends in online clubs about things i enjoy! But i hear you and get how not being cuddled and hugged really can make for lonely nights. I had to go without my husband for at least a year where i barely saw him and it surprised me how much it affected me to go without daily hugs even though i had dogs!! Just is not the same...helps but not the same!
I often have wished that all people are alone or like me who could not children get together this time of year and celebrate with all of us! I have always tried to invite the new person or just broke up etc...as i get how lonely the holidays can be for many. I know another person wrote in about how she could not have children and just hurt her how people were going on during Thanksgiving about their kids and having their families together. But if you have children, no guarantee they will want to be around you...many children resent being raised by parent who are sick all the time and they had to become adults too young by helping the chronically ill parent, especially if single one.
my point is..no guarantees for any of us..we just can do the best we can! Plan for your financial future since that is within your control. Help to find a person by getting out or joining clubs in your area, online dating...just making yourself available and open to it.
you sound like a wonderful person especially how you are trying to care for yourself as well as your mother! That in itself says so much about what a good heart you have and sure many people, including men will find it attractive..more than seeing the part of you that is sick. I was engaged when i found out and i almost called it off as i did not want to be weight around my husband's neck down the road....he reminded me there are no guarantees in life period. He could break his neck and become a paraplegic and would i leave him? of course not...he was right life has no guarantees..just journey of many hurts but thankfully with places of great love too!
I hope this cheers you not makes you more depressed lol!! but sincerely...if it meant to be and you do what you can, you will find the right Mr Big!! I really believe that with all my heart, still!!
I am sorry you have touch of holiday blues..so do i...i miss every year the children i miscarried or who i so wanted...friends and family who are no longer among us and those that chose to just be out of our lives for whatever reasons. Put up some colorful lights, beautiful holiday music, read a mushy romantic holiday book even and BELIEVE!! it is the Magic of this Season and anything is possible!!
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