Since I have a miserable track record with New Year's resolutions, the only thing I've resolved to do in the new year is to spare myself any unneccessary disappointment and forego any more of them entirely this year. Instead, I'd rather use my increasingly sporadic and fleeting energy to focus on the things that can make living with lupus easier on me and the people in my life. I would love to hear from you with anything, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant, that has helped you or your loved ones either better cope with living with lupus or helps improve your mood or outlook on a regular basis. For instance, earlier this year, one member shared that she takes magnesium several times a day to boost her energy. So after my doctor assured me that it wouldn't hurt, I started taking it and have found that it actually does sustain my energy a bit when I already have a lttle to start with.
Other members here have had success with diet changes. As a Mini Chewy SweetTarts junkie (thanks to the generosity of my new best neighbor, 4-year-old Nikki), I'm not sure I'm ready to take that leap yet. However, as an avid reader, I have discovered that short story collections are a perfect distraction for when I'm in a miserable flare or otherwise feeling too cranky to focus on a good novel or normally interesting magazine article. I buy them used for very little on Amazon (sometimes for under $1.00) and make sure they're edited by writers I already like so there's a better chance of enjoying most of them. Even so, I occasionally start reading one that's too dark or depressing for my already dour mood, but the best thing about a collection is that there's usually 25-35 more to choose from, and I often find one that makes me laugh out loud, which always boosts my mood for a while. (Send me a message if you'd like a list of the best collections I've read lately.)
I've also found that music too can be either a great commiserator or an inspiration, depending on my mood and choice. So I figure there must be other ways of making life with lupus easier or more pleasant that I haven't yet discovered and I'm eager to know whatever does this for you or the people you love.
Speaking of inspirational music, I've included a link to one of the tunes I've recently added to my personal GetOffYourBloomin'Assets playlist. It was written by Bob Dylan and his version is really good too, but Etta James is the only one who belts it out with the kind of authority I need to push me from perching too long on the pitypot these days. Hope it moves you too. 
You’re so right about avoiding stress, stressful people & situations. I’ve definitely learned that lesson and also how to say NO. I turned down my boss 2-3 years in a row when she asked me to take on added responsibilities. I don’t feel as strong a need to be a people pleaser and care taker to everyone. I need to take care of myself for right now. This also means telling people that they need to take their drama elsewhere because I can’t let my energy get wasted on nonsense that shouldn’t involve me in the first place.