So…ive finally accepted the fact that I have to move into an apartment thats has no steps. I would talk myself out of it when I was out of a flare but once the pain…stiffness…difficulty getting around hit me this last time I guess im giving in and accepting facts. I have lupus and that means making some changes to accommodate the effects of the disease and just accept my new way of life. Lupus really sucks!!! My life has changed so much and my family and friends just dont understand. Sometimes its just a lot to deal with. Im just venting…
Oh, I am sorry!
My daughter and I had to move to a first floor apt. 3 years ago.
Just a tip: ask the management for a quiet area.
We have been dealing with noisy upstairs tenants, loud music and parties every weekend!
Feel better, I will keep you in my thoughts. 
Thanks donna I really appreciate it.
Hi Lulu,
Moving to a no-stairs house has helped me enormously!
Vent away! Lupus does suck and we understand. Unfortunately family and friends don’t always understand…
Hi LuLu , You are okay !!!! There are MOMENTS that become over whelmming , just know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE !!! it takes awhile for the family/close family friends to really get the picture -but as granny use to say ,"Anything WORTH haveing is worth fighting for " , and LIFE is that (at time's -Smile) well hope that you feel better soon and also remember that YOU ARE not alone !!!....Beverly L.
VENT AWAY lulu. This is the safest place to do it! Especially because others sometimes don’t understand. I am sorry that is a hard thing to accept, however, I am certain the benefits will outweigh this moment in time. Hang in there.
venting is a good thing, feel free to vent here anytime you want. Lupus does suck, and learning to accept the limits it puts on us is sometimes one of the hardest things to do, you will see in time small changes can bring lasting results.
You have explained so well how I feel.Am moving into a brand new duplex with two bathrooms and two bedrooms. I am excited because I am in very big house with laundry in basement.Wish you well in your new apt. You likely will be sad for a while but be happy to have so .much less to do.Best wishes Carol