Iv had practice for trouts all weeek. For the past two days we hve been stunting and doing the routine over and over again. I love cheering but the day of tryouts “today” my body is just physically exhausted. My mom just tells me to suck it up and get out of bed but how do you do that when you physically cant. Iv pushed myself the past two days in practice and when it counts the most i cant get out of bed. The worst part is that my mom clearly cant see how im hurting and just thinks i can suck it up.
I caint remember how old you are off the top of my head. Does your mom go to the doctor with you? Let us know what happens today if you do make it to try outs.
16 years. Yes mom goes to my doctors, either her or my dad. My doctor said i can cheer and i want to its just hurts so bad.
I totally know how you feel... I was considering trying out for Cheer for my University next month but I have ben having some bad flairs that are really making me reconsider doing it. It makes me really sad that I can't do the things I use to do and love. Honestly if you can't do it don't... I have been on a team and felt like crap trying to "pull myself together" to perform and it sucks... If you think that it is a one time thing and over all you are pretty good then if you can make it happen and want to go for it, but if you know this feeling is a pretty regular one don't do it.
Quick question, are you pregnant?
I have a feeling your mom it trying to push you through the pain because she knows cheering is important to you, and she knows you will be greatly disappointed if you don’t try out. She doesn’t want you to miss out on the things that bring you Joy. Because, losing those things can be worse than the disease it’s self. I imagine she understands that you may have pushed yourself too hard this week and that the stress of trying out may also contribute to your pain, but she knows how hard you have worked and how much you enjoy it. Tryouts are one day and then it’s done for a year. She is not trying to hurt you. This is just my “mom” perspective, and may not truly reflect how she feels, but I’m sure she wants what is best for you and your health is priority.
You might go to "The Spoon Theory" site and have your Mom and Dad read it. It can be a real eye opener.
WE can only suck it up just so much! Dont let anyone even mamma try to convince you otherwise. Im impressed you got trough what you did. Now its time to rest. 
I was pregnant. My mother made me have an abortion. I know it will be better in the long run but iv always been against them. I have tryouts in about a hour and im just trying to get this over with. This is my last season since im going to be a senior so im trying to forget about my mistakes ^ and move on. This year i was diagnosed and things have been really rough.
KUDOS to Bumps and TJ Don't quit before you have tried!!
Bumps, I love your attitude....Lupus is 'in' our lives, but we don't have to let 'run' our lives. HOWEVER, we all need to be smart and listen to our bodies. If we 'need' to rest, we 'need' to rest. Pain is a hard thing to handle, and everybody is different. I'm turning 67 Sunday, and have been living with lupus for over 25 years. We each need to learn our own bodies and what we can, and cannot tolerate. I think we should all 'try' to do what we want....but learn from it, and adjust.
Lupuswarrior97, good luck on the cheering.
I had lupus when I practiced and did tryouts for cheer too. I got so exhausted, same as you, that I realized I couldn't do this every day, then risk letting the team down on days that I would be too sick to perform. It wasn't fair to them. I went into drama instead, and that took a lot of hours, but not as hard physically. So how did your tryouts go anyway?
I made varsity!
Sheila W. said:
I had lupus when I practiced and did tryouts for cheer too. I got so exhausted, same as you, that I realized I couldn’t do this every day, then risk letting the team down on days that I would be too sick to perform. It wasn’t fair to them. I went into drama instead, and that took a lot of hours, but not as hard physically. So how did your tryouts go anyway?
Congratulations!
Awesome!! Hoping you will stay well enough to enjoy it!!
Congrats!! Was praying foe good new!!